Guest Blog: The Modern Woman and Making the First Move


February 21, 2014 by aoifebrennan

Interesting observations from Debbie from ToyBoy Warehouse 

toyboy warehouse

toyboy warehouse

Since the dawn of time, it has been the man’s job to always make the first move. Needless to say, our lives have changed a lot over the years; particularly in terms of technology. The rise of the internet and online dating has revolutionized the way we connect with each other, making it easier than ever to approach someone new. In spite of that, recent observations at suggest that even on a platform uniquely designed to empower female sexuality, women members are still reticent to approach men asking for what they want.

So if a woman wouldn’t let a man choose her job, wouldn’t let a man choose her outfit (let’s face it, the average woman probably wouldn’t even let a man choose her carpet) – why is she still waiting around for him to choose her? A major issue is the fear of rejection, but it now poses a lesser threat. Imagine the worst case scenario: that first, flirty and earnest message lands in the inbox of a man who is only in search of an ego boost. From there it quickly joins with the ever-growing pile of fan mail from female suitors for which he has no real regard. This eventuality is easily put to bed: with the smallest click of a mouse he is banished forever into cyberspace and promptly forgotten.

‘Be the change you want to see in the world’, especially when negative peer judgements are so dissuasive. Women who actively pursue hot guys are often labelled “predatory” and “manly”. Give yourself permission to ignore these views. A woman who knows what she wants and has the confidence to act on it is far more likely to succeed (and appear even sexier as she does it!) Don’t let passivity masquerade as the “female prerogative” – waiting for someone to show interest and then accepting or rejecting them is not really an uninfluenced selection.

A strong possibility is that your interest will find a guy who is charmed by the unique sense of self-assurance that sets this woman in particular aside from the sea of others that need a man’s attention to get them talking. Each new attraction is based on established mutual interest: no playing hard to get, no will-he won’t-he, just what you want – and right now. Free yourself from that guy who messages every woman available and has a million dating profiles, each with a picture of his headless, topless torso; the empowered feeling of knowing you selected your new piece of man-candy is not one you will quickly forget.

– Debbie,
Community & Content Manager
Toyboy Warehouse

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3 thoughts on “Guest Blog: The Modern Woman and Making the First Move

  1. So very true! Love this.

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